Lately, I’ve been reflecting on my own view of success and many times a client interaction triggers moments of clarity. Yesterday, during a morning drive I asked myself: “What is the number ONE thing that has prevented my client’s or is preventing them from accomplishing their dreams?
My drive was about 10 minutes and during those 10 minutes I was able to come up with 6 of the biggest saboteurs (I don’t think I’ve ever used this word) of success.
Have YOU experienced any of these? Let me know in the comments after you read through them.
1.) Massive dreams or goals, but ZERO action.
How many times have you sat and thought “how awesome would be to fit in that dress I just saw at Nordstroms?” or had a BIG goal to lose “30 pounds this year!” BUT your thought or daydream continued to be just that, a thought?
Big dreams and crazy goals are awesome and every fit woman should have them, but what separates the women who are successful at them and the ones who aren’t, is ACTION! Action that promotes the success of the goal! It makes sense doesn’t it? You can’t think yourself thin or will yourself to be healthy.
Massive dreams require massive action, not massive wishing or massive hoping.
And if you are anxious about your massive dreams, just remember AAA: Action Alleviates Anxiety.
Dream Big. Act Big.
2.) Never asking for help.
I am and continue to be guilty of this one. I have always been quite stubborn when it came to asking for help, because I always thought I could just “figure it out”. And, while often times I did “figure it out” many times it was at a cost. I lost sleep, I stressed out, I detached myself from friends and family, and I spent time on a subject I just wasn’t passionate about.
I feel everyone should be passionate about improving their health and body, however, I am also a believer in shortening the learning curve. Now, I understand this, which is why I read books, take courses, and go to seminars, to LEARN and implement, to GET HELP!
You don’t have to go at it alone, it’s OK to ask for and receive help.
3.) Helping everyone else first, and yourself second, or third, or last.
I see this one A LOT. Women are naturally nurturing, selfless, and loving creatures so they have an innate desire to HELP people, which is amazing. BUT, at the same time, doing this can cause a neglect of and disconnection from oneself.
And by the time it’s all said and done, maybe you’ve helped 1000 people, but you’ve sacrificed your life in the form of your health, body, and not pursuing your passion (or whatever else).
You can’t give what you don’t have.
It’s OK to be a little selfish, especially when your intention is to better yourself in order to be better, stronger, and healthier for the world and the ones you love.
Allow yourself and give yourself permission to pursue your passion and get healthy!
4.) An expectation to have an awesome body right NOW!
Fat loss and health creation is a process. A process that essentially has no start, middle, or end, so having ANY expectation, especially if you are emotionally attached to the result is not a great idea. However, I do believe our expectations do govern our results, so why not have an expectation that serves your reason and purpose?
Consider this: If you’ve been mostly sedentary, consistently consumed fast food, and never were conscious about your food choices for the past 5 years, how could you expect to get in amazing shape in 6 months? Be realistic about your past, but don’t dwell on it. Learn from your poor habits and begin focusing on creating healthy behaviors TODAY, right NOW.
That’s the right NOW you focus on, what actions are you taking right NOW to create an eventual healthy and sexy future?
5.) Self-Doubt leading to self-destructive habits.
As amazingly strong and intelligent beings women are, they also possess a unique ability to doubt themselves . “I can’t”…does that ring any bells? “I can’t” should be virtually eliminated from your vocabulary when you start the self- responsibility journey. Thoughts and feelings of inadequacy don’t serve your desire to transform your life and body.
When you have them (and you will) redirect them to an I CAN statement:
I can work out 3 times a week.
I can lift weights and get strong.
I can take complete and utter responsibility for my thoughts and actions.
Trust in yourself and your ability to achieve anything you want, even the body of your dreams.
6.) A focus only on an outer transformation.
Fitness is more than JUST aesthetics, but I think you KNOW that, right? I know, I get it, you are bombarded of images of what fitness SHOULD look like, from magazines to TV shows to crazy weight loss reality programs, it’s a hot mess, but you don’t have to be.
A proper transformation happens first on the inside and then on the outside. A focus on an internal transformation allows for a much easier and attainable outer transformation. You must accept who you are and where you are in order to change yourself for the better on the inside and on the outside.
The ironic thing is that when you shift your focus from an outer only transformation to an inner first, outer second transformation you become happier with the process, yourself, and your healthy behaviors create themselves.
Now, it’s time to reflect on what things, ideas, or self-limiting factors are preventing you from succeeding!
Have you overcome any of the above success saboteurs? (BOOM, used it twice in one article) I like to celebrate the little things. 🙂