Do You Believe in Yourself?
We can do very few things in a positive way if we feel negative about ourselves.
Just like processed foods puts a ceiling on your fat-burning potential.
Low self-esteem puts a ceiling on your success potential.
They go hand in hand.
If your desire to lose weight and get in shape is a resounding 10, but your self-esteem is a measly 4, your performance in everything you do to achieve your desire will be…
You guessed it, a 4.
So, now that we are aware our self-esteem and self-image need some work, it’s time to figure out the steps to fix it.
It’s a simple formula I use for everything.
Once you address the problem, you don’t dwell on it, you find a strategy to fix it, a solution.
You stop focusing on the program, and start developing habits.
Habits that are solution-focused.
Let’s discuss the 6 Steps to Building Your Self-Esteem:
1.) Take 100% Responsibility
Taking responsibility means accepting everything that happens to you, the good and the bad.
It also requires you to control your attitude towards life.
If you desire to make a today a masterpiece of health and happiness, then you need to have a great attitude!
Like any discipline and habit, your attitude needs attention daily.
Stop what you’re doing right now and do an “attitude check.”
Ask yourself, does my current attitude need an adjustment?
That’s taking responsibility for your health, body, life, and attitude.
2.) Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
The only person you should compare yourself to, is you.
Every other comparison is a distraction and mental manipulator.
When you compare your body to another woman’s body, you almost always fail to consider the individuality and unique circumstances.
Can you truly compare a body who is 40, with 3 kids, a full-time job, and beginning a healthy weight loss journey to a woman who is 23, no kids, and was a college athlete?
No, that’s silly!
Compare your yesterday to your today.
What can you do today to improve, grow, and act on that you didn’t do yesterday.
3.) Manage Your Self-Talk
Your self-talk will make or break your progress not only a daily basis, but on a moment to moment basis.
Right now, 5 minutes ago, and 5 years ago you are/were telling yourself a story.
Talking to yourself about something.
Maybe you were thinking about something innocent like a movie you watched.
But maybe, you just saw a nice pair of jeans and you told yourself you were to fat to fit in them.
Or maybe you saw a cute guy and said to yourself, there’s no way he’d be into me.
Every time you have a negative, self-doubting thought you de-value your self-worth.
Instead of discouraging yourself, encourage yourself.
Instead of dwelling on mistakes, focus on what you’ve learned.
Instead of negativity, find the positive.
Redirect your negative self-talk starting now.
If you want to change your life and body, you have to change the way you talk to yourself.
4.) Be Disciplined (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It)
Positive habits rule your self-esteem.
Take small steps that will move you towards your goals.
I know, there are some days when you lack motivation, encouragement, or inspiration.
We all have them.
On these days, your disciplined habits can strengthen your morale and your self-worth.
It’s like doubling down on your own awesomeness when you take the actions on days when you don’t feel like.
Don’t you feel great when you hit the gym, after you started justifying why you shouldn’t go?
Or how awesome does it make you feel when you choose fruit over the donut, even though it looked oh so good?
Daily disciplines will catapult your self-esteem.
5.) Move Beyond Your Self-Doubts and Limiting Beliefs
Believe it or not, most people believe they can’t accomplish great things.
They place limits on themselves and their potential.
These limits are self-imposed.
Understanding how limiting beliefs are blocking your success starts with awareness.
Can you believe some of us aren’t even aware of these self-imposed limiting beliefs?
Once you identify the belief, you at least give yourself a fighting chance of redirecting that limiting belief to action.
It isn’t what you are that holds you back, it’s usually what you think you’re not.
6.) Celebrate Your Wins
Don’t trivialize your victories, no matter how small.
Let’s say you accomplish something “small”, which mental movie is playing in your head?
- It’s about time I went to the gym. I can’t believe it’s taken me THIS long to start exercising. What is wrong with me?
- I’m so glad I went to the gym today, it felt great to sweat. I’m pumped up that I’ve committed to going to the gym 4 days a week. I’m going to see so much progress in the coming weeks!
Do you see the difference between scenario 1 and 2?
#1 isn’t managing your self-talk very well, is it?
#2 is taking responsibility and attitude, positive self-talk, and celebrating the little win or going to the gym just one time. In 4 weeks, you’ll be able to celebrate a larger win of maybe 10 pounds of weight loss!
A win is a win and you need to be happy when you have one.
The challenge I have for you is to take control of your self-image and self-esteem starting today!
Reflect on the 6 steps in this article and work on ONE until you have it down. Then move onto the next step.
In 4-6 weeks, you’ll be a confident, positive self-talking, responsibility-taking MACHINE!
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